Hey, remember when I asked you
what you thought about tattoos? Well, it seems you, my dear blog readers, are just a big ol' slice of Britain (which some of you are! lol) because even though we are "lingerie fetishists" (
remember, that's what
folks call us!) and my question related specifically to tattoos and lingerie, the overall response (in comments and emails) was very similar to (perhaps a bit stronger than) the results of a recent British survey: In the
Ask Jeeves survey, 47 percent of men stated they find ink on women a turnoff.

I know it's definitely fuzzy math, but if I factor in the responses of women (both in the Jeeves survey and to my post) and the swinging comments of the
gender fluid, and then subtract a bit for those defending women's rights to decorate themselves in ink (because to many feminists, the very subtext of the question is rather sexist), I find that we "lingerie fetishists" are just a wee bit less likely to delight in the sight of a woman with tattoos wearing lingerie.
...Does that make us more British?(As I've previously stated, I have a tat of my own and personally believe in individuals rights to be individual as well as equality between men and women; but I find the concept of beauty, its expectations and norms, interesting. If you're interested in such debate and commentary, you can read the comments there -- and a similar, but older,
discussion at AskMen.com.)
Now, when I read about this survey, and considered (admittedly via the aforementioned fuzzy math) the possible implied connections between lingerie lovers and the British, I was once again reminded of how, as an American -- OK, an "Ugly American," even -- that I have some perceptions about the British, especially regarding lingerie and fetishes in general. I've often thought of discussing such things here at
A Slip of a Girl, but didn't want to offend anyone -- or seem like I'm forcing others to appear equally ignorant *wink*
However...Now that I'm thigh deep in discussing fetishes at
that fashion fetish event, I find myself bumping and grinding up against such notions again. So, here goes...
Now, before I dissolve into the flames of shame (and more!), I'd like to make two things clear:
1. I state that these are perceptions -- and the only thing saving them from being assumptions, which would make an ass out of you and me, is the fact that I know these are "things I think" which probably have no basis at all in reality.
2. I'm sharing this with no ill will -- as a way to start a conversation.
Now I'll go first and confess. *deep breath in, then out* Here goes -As an American woman, I have the perception that you Brits, male and female, are far more interested in vintage or classical lingerie, such as girdles and garter belts (Oops, I mean suspenders!) than those of us in the US (especially men in the US, who fancy such monstrosities as thongs and going braless).
I doubt anyone has more of a love of shoes than American women (more of a shopping thing than an actual sexual fetish), but I fancy that British men are home of the shoe fetish (and perhaps dream of shopping with shoe-obsessed American women).
I also dreamily operate under the perception that you Brits are more what I call "traditionally kinky," more understanding and tolerant of such things as d/s, power exchanges & spankings.

(If I'm being terribly honest, this means that the combined perceptions fuel quite a number of fantasies of being stripped down to my delicates, placed over a British man's knee, and improperly spanked!)
I know this all is indecent, both in terms of fantasy and stereotypes... But there; now I've confessed.
I have dared to share first, and now I ask that you, dear gentle and kind blog readers, share your perceptions about those of us in the US in terms of lingerie, fetish, and kink.
In fact, I open it up to all countries. And if you'd like to provide actual studies &/or survey data, that's very welcome. As is purely anecdotal evidence and stories about your own country or other countries. So long as there is nothing stated or shared in a malicious or mean manner.
For those of you brave & daring enough, I'd like to challenge you to respond either by commenting or posting at your own blog/website and leaving a link as your comment.(Those brave enough to share win my admiration and 100 Slip of a Girl Bonus Points, the latter of which may or may not have any actual value *wink*)
Again, this is about sharing, learning, and, OK, perhaps arousing; it is not mean-spirited. (And I will delete offensive, hateful things.)
So, are you feeling brave?What culturally stereotypical notions about lingerie, fetishes and sex do you have?Images via
Eiknarf &
S & M = Smoke & Mirrors.
PS My apologies for such a poorly written and hasty post -- I just didn't want to chicken out again *wink*